Mental contrasting is an exercise and perspective that helps you see things from a more realistic point of view. It can be a great tool to achieve your goals. It also opposes, to a certain extent, naive optimism.

Many texts speak of the benefits of optimism without specifying that it occurs under certain conditions. Sometimes, it’s thought that it’s enough to ‘think positively’ for everything to turn out well. This isn’t only naive, but also, in many cases can be counterproductive to achieving your goals.

While a positive attitude and hope for good results can help you achieve any goal, it’s no less important to see the limitations of reality. Mental contrasting helps you adopt a perspective more attached to the facts of the matter, instead of relying on luck or inertia.

“An idealist is one who, o noticing that a rose smells better than a cabbage, concludes that it makes a better soup.”

-H.L. Mencken –

Naive optimism

Being optimistic is healthy. It’s linked to feelings of hope. With hope, even if things go wrong, you don’t lose faith. This is an extraordinarily motivating perspective.

However, a problem occurs when you expect that when the course changes, some greater power will direct you to a place where your expectations will be fulfilled. This type of mental course is far removed from one where you make the necessary reflections to modify or adjust events.

You might have ideas like “I was unlucky last time so this time I’ll be lucky again and destiny will be on my side”. In fact, it’s really common to think that good and bad luck has to be balanced. However, in reality, fate doesn’t always pay its dues.

However, we’re not saying that sometimes letting events flow isn’t important. What we’re saying is that it’s important to be prepared to change course if necessary. In fact, respect the natural flow, but also be prepared to intervene and rearrange or amend the course of events.

Mental contrasting

Mental contrasting refers to the exercise of confronting plans and desires with the objective limits of reality. On the one side, is what you want to happen and on the other is the possibility of it happening. Contrasting one with the other helps you work with a more adapted vision of reality.

Mental contrasting helps you better identify the weakest points of your strategies. If you visualize a negative outcome, you can ask yourself why would it have occurred? Answering this question will give you ideas for interventions that’ll increase the probability of obtaining the result you want.

The risks of autosuggestion and idealism

When you suggest to yourself that everything will be perfect, you’re imposing a pressure that might not only be excessive but also isn’t particularly enriching. Indeed, thinking of a reality and a world in which everything is harmonic, wonderful, and happy means you’re setting the bar too high, so high that you’ll never reach it.

Naive optimism often leads to disappointment. It means you expect so much of reality that, in the end, even a really good result doesn’t reach your levels of expectation. In those who profess psychic positivism as a religion, this is the reason behind autosuggestion. In fact, in extreme cases, these people believe that the force of their mind has the power to transform a negative into a positive in an almost magical way.

Obviously, if you want to live your life wearing rose-colored spectacles, you can do so. However, it’ll deprive you of the valuable lessons that are implicit in your mistakes and failures. In fact, in reality, you learn so much more from your stumbles than from your successes.

Success corroborates something you already knew while the mistake teaches you something new. However, you should obviously, use mental contrasting sensibly. There’s an old adage that claims it’s always good to ‘hope for the best, but be prepared for the worst’. That’s what a realistic perspective is all about.

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