Training and leadership expert, Dan Bobinski, stated in an article he published on the website, “Management Issues” that emotional intelligence can be learned, like any college or school subject. His research demonstrated that the only (or biggest) difference between outstanding and average leaders is how they use their emotional intelligence.
In Bobinski’s opinion, it’s possible, not only to learn but also to control what happens to you. Furthermore, this extends from the business area to other personal relationships and your environment, etc.
Emotional intelligence is the ability that some people possess (those who’ve already learned about the subject) to be able to perceive, understand, and control what they themselves and others feel, in order to take advantage of it. This doesn’t mean that they’re bad people, but rather that they possess an added ‘extra’ that others don’t have. Furthermore, they know how to take advantage of it.
Good levels of emotional intelligence can lead to successful businesses, good marriages, relationships, (or even divorces), and excellent education of children or adults who had no boundaries during their childhood, etc. In fact, those who occupy the highest positions in the best companies in the world, have, among other characteristics, good control of their emotional intelligence, as well as knowledge about what those around them feel.
Although there are a number of concepts that encompass emotional intelligence, many of them complex and worth analyzing in detail, there are also things that ‘normal’ human beings can do to improve it.
Keys to understanding emotional intelligence
When thinking about different personalities, we must discard the idea of there being ‘good’ and ‘bad’ people. There are simply people who differ from each other.
Consequently, people also have different strengths and also weaknesses. It’s also good to remember that each virtue has an associated defect and vice versa. Therefore, you can choose which you want to improve upon.
Each and every one of the different personality styles can add to the strength of a work team, couple, or family. In fact, any group of two people or more. You all need to focus on what’s done well and not on mistakes. You should keep in mind that if you focus on strengths you’ll become stronger. Equally, if you concentrate on weaknesses, you’ll become weaker.
The constant effort to seek and find virtues in another has real benefits. It’s like the plentiful harvest after a good planting season. For this reason, you should always try to ascertain the strength of others as well as yourself.
If everyone is expected to stay in the same position, doing the same things, success will never be achieved. Indeed, each person is unique and unrepeatable in the world. Therefore, it’s not advisable for two colleagues to do the same task in unison, unless it’s specifically required.
You need to know what success and profit mean to others as you won’t necessarily share the same kind of self-concept. In this way, you’ll find it easier to achieve group goals, without neglecting your own.
If you only work toward achieving your own personal goals and put all your effort into other goals than those of your team, there’ll be many divisions and weaknesses. Consequently, you’ll be unable to maximize your results.
Effectiveness is related to doing the right thing. Efficiency is related to doing it fast. Remember what each concept means. The best results are always achieved when you take the time to do things right.
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