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How to Develop Affective Responsibility in Your Relationship

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Responsibility on the affective level derives from specific pillars of a relationship. For example, dialogue, respect, empathy, care, and affection. In this article, we’re going to explain what affective responsibility implies. This will make it easier for you to develop and establish healthy and honest relationships.

Before we delve into the concept of affective responsibility, take a moment to think about how you expect and want people to treat you in your different relationships. For instance, your partner, friends, and even family.

Affective responsibility is essential for a relationship to be healthy. You have to be aware of how you feel regarding how other people act. At the same time, you need to be able to communicate it in an assertive way. Only by doing this will you be able to enjoy a healthy relationship based on communication and respect.

Affective responsibility

Affective responsibility is a way of understanding your interpersonal relationships. It’s based on caring for your feelings and emotions that occur within the framework of bonding. According to Wojtyla, it means being emotionally aware of the impact of our actions on others. In fact, it’s only by exhibiting affective responsibility that we can create lasting and, of course, healthy bonds.

Your affective responsibility in your relationship is characterized by:

  • Communicating or expressing your expectations and feelings about your relationship.
  • Mutually establishing boundaries with the intention of maintaining respect between the two of you.
  • Taking care of each other.
  • Understanding the weight of your actions and how they affect your partner’s life.
  • Maintaining good communication, especially if you’re going to discuss an issue that’s bothering you.
Affective responsibility means being clear, respectful, and empathetic regarding what the other person may feel.

What affective responsibility doesn’t involve

On the other hand, affective responsibility doesn’t involve:

  • Invalidating your partner’s emotions and preventing them from expressing them.
  • Exceeding boundaries, not being clear, or breaking previously established agreements.
  • Exhibiting behaviors that lead your partner to delude themselves with possibilities, when you have no intention of getting involved.
  • Believing that they must guess what you feel, need, or think.
  • Keeping relevant information hidden related to your feelings.

Although your way of fulfilling affective responsibility doesn’t change from one day to the next, along the way, you usually learn and improve this ability. Indeed, any investments that you can make in this area will usually be really worthwhile.

Repercussions in couple relationships

It’s probably easier to understand the concept of affective responsibility in the context of a romantic relationship. However, it’s also relevant in family, work, or friend relationships. But ,affective responsibility in terms of your relationship with your partner, involves the following:

  • Understanding that your relationship goes beyond yourself. It means putting selfishness aside and being empathetic. After all, there’s another person involved, with their own strengths and weaknesses, and you must learn to deal, in the best possible way, what it means to share everything with them.
  • Realizing that all relationships have conflicts. We all have the right to make mistakes. But, affective responsibility means you must take responsibility for your actions, be able to ask for forgiveness, and also forgive your partner. However, this shouldn’t be an endless cycle. If it is, you could be dealing with a toxic partner.
  • Taking charge of your emotions. You must understand that you can’t blame your partner for what you feel. You have to understand where your feelings come from and what they’re trying to tell you.

Responsible practices at the affective level

Now that you know what affective responsibility is, you must put it into practice. After all, while understanding it is helpful, practicing it will really improve the health of your relationship. If there’s affective responsibility in your relationship, there’ll be:

  • Assertive communication. It’s difficult to express what you want, what bothers you, and what you feel. However, speaking directly, clearly, and honestly will help you prevent and overcome conflicts.
  • Agreements that satisfy everyone. This is the best way to overcome problems and conflict. One way to employ it is by establishing what’s allowed and what isn’t via dialogue.
  • Anticipation of complications. Commit to your partner and understand that, inevitably, there’ll be difficult moments but they’re not going to disappear.
  • Clear and honest communication. Lay the foundations to express yourself comfortably.
  • Boundaries. These are essential in interpersonal relationships for healthy affective exercises and reciprocity. The absence of these will lead to problems of varying kinds.
  • Mutual care. Caring for both your partner and yourself.
  • Validation. This is central to affective responsibility.
  • Honesty. Deceit is a broad-spectrum behavior. Those who hide their emotions when they claim to manifest them and those who seek to cause an emotion in the other without trying to correspond to it are deceitful.

Non-responsible affective practices

Some non-responsible affective practices are the following:

  • Breaching previous agreements.
  • Exceeding boundaries.
  • Breaking communication.
  • Ghosting.
  • Gaslighting or other manipulations.

So what do you do if you detect a lack of affective responsibility on the part of your partner? You might try communicating it to them. They might not be aware or haven’t developed the ability, but always bear in mind that you can’t change them. Only you can decide and do it.

Woman crying because she has fallen in love on autopilot
If bonding with someone continues to hurt you, remember to respect yourself, because you deserve a relationship based on mutual love.

Practice affective negotiation

If you think about it, affective responsibility is similar to a negotiation process, in which, via communication, a beneficial agreement is reached for those involved. It’s important to emphasize how important it is to maintain communication in different types of relationships.

Without a doubt, conversation is the best way to find out what another person needs and to communicate it. In order to put affective responsibility into practice, it’s essential to work on assertiveness. Only then can you say what you want, what bothers you, and what you feel, among other things, in a clear, honest, and direct way.

Coherence in your relationship

Affective responsibility seeks to build more enriching ties in your relationship. Therefore, it implies not making your partner suffer and making them accept the consequences derived from your way of thinking and acting. It also means maintaining coherence between your thoughts, emotions, words, and actions. After all, filling your partner with doubts or confusion will cause them unnecessary harm

Finally, affective responsibility doesn’t imply acting perfectly. Indeed, this is impossible. It involves acting and speaking with empathy and respect, establishing agreements (through dialogue), and respecting your partner. Moreover, if you make a mistake and cause conflict, it means being responsible and accepting the consequences.

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